Thank you for your question it is encouraging to hear you have a willingness to remember the joy that your loved one has bought you your life.
Losing a loved one is perhaps one of the most difficult processes we experience in life and the need to remember is a natural response to loss.
The ways in which we choose to remember can be as measureless as the imagination itself. I remember one of my clients’ decided to plant a tree to remember a life lived and to celebrate their loved one after they had died. My client said they planned on bringing some of the cuttings into the house on anniversaries such as birthdays symbolising the celebration of that life.
Another planned to make a park bench in her garden with a plaque, she said she would take time to reflect on the loved ones life while sitting in the garden.
I think the common mistake for some people is they try forgetting rather than remembering the pain of the loss of their loved one, so whatever you decide, the fact that you are able to sit with and embrace the sometimes uncomfortable feelings that often accompany loss is admirable.